If you want to deal with your erectile dysfunction than it is essential to have a sexual partner to work with... Here are some basic principles that will help you to have more sex. Don’t be fooled by the fact that these tips are very basic and simple. I believe that your success with women will increase significantly if you cultivate the mindset that seduction is simple and natural and does not need to be treated as a science that needs to be studied. |
1. Talk to women you haven’t talked to yet
Seduction can be so easy. It can happen that you start talking to a woman and things simply work out by themselves. Everything you want to happen just happens, you like her and she likes you, the conversation flows and the attraction is there. This does sound like an idealistic view about seduction but it does happen! So if there is just one advice you will ever need then take this one: The more women you talk to the more likely it is that you will meet one where things just work out. I don’t care where you meet them and what to say to them but find women you don’t know yet and talk to them. How about committing to talking to one per day? It can be frightening to approach women in public so if that is not for you then join social meetup groups or singles events (www.meetup.com gives you an overview of groups in your area).
2. If you like a woman then tell her that
I have got a rhyme for you: It sounds so easy and yet it can be hard - if you like a woman then tell her that!
Things might not always flow naturally in a conversation and before you know it has ended without you having made sure she knows what she needs to know: Literally say: „I like you“ and you will have achieved so much. Not only will you have made the conversation more intimate but chances are she will pick up on the fact that you have sexual intentions. Now it is in her hands to deal with that information. Fact is, if she likes you too you have now made it easy for her to open up to you.
3. Being silly is the easiest way to flirt
Do you find yourself stuck in dry conversations with women sometimes? It can be rather annoying to talk to a woman you like while the conversation is absolutely non-sexual and dry. This can make it rather awkward to let her know about your intentions, so the question is: How can you spice up the conversation? Flirting is the answer! However, how can you possibly flirt on command, especially if you are not a flirtatious person? I have been struggling with this question for years and the more flirting advice I have read the more self-conscious I have become about it. Nothing really worked and I thought I needed to rely on my current mood and the nature of the connection to the woman I was talking to. I have discovered, however, a little trick that can get you more easily to flirt: Do something silly! Silliness and flirting are very closely related and either way you can’t really go wrong with being silly, it’s what makes interactions fun!
I don’t want to give you guidelines on how to be silly as I trust you will find your own way of getting there but here are some examples:
- Put on a big smile and when she asks what’s funny, say: „I am smiling because of the big smile I am having“
- Say: „Let’s play thumb wrestling!“ Then thumb wrestle with her
- Learn a salsa dance move and spin her in the middle of the conversation
You don’t like any of these examples? That’s because they’re silly…
4. Rejection is uncomfortable but it won’t kill you
Let's face it, hearing a „no“ from a woman does not feel good and it never will. However, your willingness to confront this uncomfortable feeling has a great influence on your success with women. There is no shortcut, there is no way around it: Approaching women and asking them out will always feel uncomfortable. Don’t expect it to ever change, maybe the following metaphor will help you instead: Think of approaching a woman like jumping into cold water. As you get closer to the water you shudder just thinking about jumping. You dip your foot into the water and it is freezing, as expected. Then you jump as you just want to get it over with. The first seconds in the water feel horrible but then it is actually okay and soon you find yourself surprised how bearable and refreshing it feels and you think „That’s not too bad, what did I make all that fuss about?“
Despite this observation, your next jump will be just as uncomfortable. Get used to it.
By the way: What you call rejection is nothing but the interpretation of a particular situation and therefore an illusion. When you ask a woman out and she says „no“ then you might interpret that as having been „rejected“ but that does that even mean? So if you can look at the situation objectively and you might feel less uncomfortable. Furthermore, adapt the following mindset: She is not saying no to you, she is saying no to your offer.
5. Act before you think
Sexuality is not logical. Sometimes things just flow, sometimes they don’t, you are attracted to certain women without knowing why and some women are attracted to you without knowing why. Therefore, the more you can shut your mind off during sexual interactions the better. Your intuition knows better than you. When you ask yourself: „Should I or shouldn’t I?“ then the answer is: You should have already done it. Try things before doing risk assessment first:
- Go for the kiss when you feel like it without waiting until she gives you „the look“
- Ask her out because you desire her and not because you think she might say yes
- Do text her whatever cheesy thing you want (e.g I have been thinking about you )