Online Dating has become a very convenient way to find a partner and I am amazed by the success stories I have heard. In fact, some people get exactly what they want from meeting up with somebody whom they were introduced to digitally.
My guess is that you are not of those people, that maybe you have met girls you got along with online but that the sex was not great (if you have had any).
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My guess is that you are not of those people, that maybe you have met girls you got along with online but that the sex was not great (if you have had any).
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Before I will tell why online dating might be a contributing factor to your erection worries, let’s have a look at its benefits:
- You get to meet women you normally wouldn’t meet, which gives you more insight into your sexual preferences and it might even expand them
- If a woman shows up for a date it is very likely she is interested in becoming sexual
- Your living circumstances might make it difficult to meet women in your everyday life
- You can write in your profile and your messages what you are looking for, filtering out those women who don’t match your intentions
- Online Dating algorithms might actually match you up with people you have things in common with
- You get to experiment with different women and you are therefore more willing to take risks as there is less scarcity
- This variety might lead you meeting a woman you have a great sexual connection with, meaning you will get great erections without doing any „work“ to get them
For all these reasons above, online dating might be great for you and can even lead you to become more sexually confident and to having better erections more often. However, there is a chance that online dating is not the right approach for you, so read carefully if the following applies to you:
- Have you frequently been on dates where you had a good connection but the woman did not arouse you?
- Did you find yourself in the situation where you went to bed with her because of her initiative rather than your desire?
- Do you find more enjoyment in writing messages and scanning your matches than on the actual dates?
If that is the case then here my answer for you: Online Dating does not work for you because you select your dates based upon you mind’s response to an image on the screen rather than your body’s response to a person in front of you.
That means that there is no preselection beforehand where you can "feel" the woman, to check if she is your sexual preference. After all, the more of your sexual preference she is the more likely it is she will arouse you.
In online dating you are only giving your body the information it needs once you actually on the date. If you then don’t find yourself that attracted to your date, your mind has all the time in the world to convince you why you should have sex with her anyway. Before you know it you are in bed with her, you can’t get it up and then you think you got in erection problems…
What’s even worse, the more often this happens the more you buy into the story that you have got an unsupportive penis, which will increase the chance of future ED scenarios. I therefore urge you to be very mindful if you choose to meet women online and to not try to sleep with them „just for the experience“ when it actually does not feel right. Be aware if it is your ego that is nagging you to get the notch and even if you observe that this happening then either cut the date short or continue it outside of a sexual context. While you are at it you might as well practice your vulnerability skills and tell the women about your concerns. Chances are she will feel the same and you just made a new friend who will end up introducing you the next woman you will have mind-blowing sex with.