Are you a woman who is curious to learn more about erectile dysfunction? Then you are reading the right post.
First of all: Thank you for reading this. Every man you will meet from now on will benefit from you taking the time to understand how difficult it can be to have a penis and subsequently suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED).
Just in case you haven’t encountered it yet: ED can happen to any man at any age and is mostly caused by a variety of anxieties. Because these anxieties are often subconscious, we don't understand what is happening ourselves and cannot give you the reason for it.
First of all: Thank you for reading this. Every man you will meet from now on will benefit from you taking the time to understand how difficult it can be to have a penis and subsequently suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED).
Just in case you haven’t encountered it yet: ED can happen to any man at any age and is mostly caused by a variety of anxieties. Because these anxieties are often subconscious, we don't understand what is happening ourselves and cannot give you the reason for it.
There you have it. Sometimes we just won’t get hard, no matter who hot we find you, not matter how much we love you and no matter how much we want to please you. Rest assured: in most cases it not you - it’s us! You are doing just fine, it is just our minds that are playing tricks on us.
So how is this possible? On occasions, we might come across as more sexually confident than we actually are and if you got your shit together more than we do it can intimidate us. You can appear rather sexually aggressive sometimes which might make our dicks go limp in which case we would appreciate you taking it easy as it would help us to relax more and feel more self assured.
Furthermore, sensitive creatures as we are, we might need some time to get accustomed to the touch of a new person, which is why we might not get aroused the first time we discover each other’s bodies. In this case, please be modest and accept that our genitals will not get intimate to the full extent that time. In appreciation for your patience we promise to use our mouth and fingers to our best ability and the next time we see each other our dick might be all ready to go.
When we don’t get hard we do understand that you are pulling off all kinds of tricks to make it work: You ride on top of us, you jerk us off and you use your mouth in the way we appreciate all so much. However, if you realize that your efforts do not lead to an erection then please let go. Don’t try to make something work which in that moment is not meant to. It can very well be that our body has shut down and it needs some time off your all so pleasant touches. When we really like you it makes us very vulnerable when we don’t get an erection so what we need from you is to accept it and keep up with the belief that it will work out eventually. So please don’t make us feel pressured to get a boner and instead be open to refrain from sex for a moment, to do a different activity and then try again later. Go for a walk with us and encourage us to be vulnerable and share with you our intimate thoughts and experiences regarding sex so what we feel free to do the same.
If you are looking primarily for sex and you do not want to spend your time and energy on helping us to get it up, that is totally fine! It simply means we are no match for we each other and we trust you will find somebody who can give you a good time at a finger’s snap. What is required from you in such a case is a clean way of communicating this to us, so that we don’t blame our cocks on a missed opportunity. How about telling us the truth with all the empathy your beautiful feminine radiance can convey? Something like: „It seems that we are no sexual match for each other and I think we need different partners at this stage. I don’t think you have an erection problem, you simply need a different woman, a woman that arouses you more than me, a woman that matches your sexual preferences more and that you connect better with“.
Being this open with us is better than leaving us with a vague idea only of why you did not want to meet up again.
If, however, you are our girlfriend or wife and our erections problems are recurring than we hope you are open for experimentation. We might come up with unconventional ideas so your openness to try them is appreciated; (Admit it, you have been fantasizing about dressing up as a bunny anyway, right?) And maybe we need to be encouraged to see a therapist who can help us to see our deeper blocks.
To sum it up: If you can learn to accept that we don’t always get it up then you won’t perceive it as a problem. This helps us in return to drop our worries and surrender to you sexually. If you manage to do that and if you express truthfully and empathically how you perceive the situation then you can be proud of yourself of having done what you could. Then we will feel safe to get naked and might thank you with the erection of your dreams. Either way you will have helped us to become better men.
So how is this possible? On occasions, we might come across as more sexually confident than we actually are and if you got your shit together more than we do it can intimidate us. You can appear rather sexually aggressive sometimes which might make our dicks go limp in which case we would appreciate you taking it easy as it would help us to relax more and feel more self assured.
Furthermore, sensitive creatures as we are, we might need some time to get accustomed to the touch of a new person, which is why we might not get aroused the first time we discover each other’s bodies. In this case, please be modest and accept that our genitals will not get intimate to the full extent that time. In appreciation for your patience we promise to use our mouth and fingers to our best ability and the next time we see each other our dick might be all ready to go.
When we don’t get hard we do understand that you are pulling off all kinds of tricks to make it work: You ride on top of us, you jerk us off and you use your mouth in the way we appreciate all so much. However, if you realize that your efforts do not lead to an erection then please let go. Don’t try to make something work which in that moment is not meant to. It can very well be that our body has shut down and it needs some time off your all so pleasant touches. When we really like you it makes us very vulnerable when we don’t get an erection so what we need from you is to accept it and keep up with the belief that it will work out eventually. So please don’t make us feel pressured to get a boner and instead be open to refrain from sex for a moment, to do a different activity and then try again later. Go for a walk with us and encourage us to be vulnerable and share with you our intimate thoughts and experiences regarding sex so what we feel free to do the same.
If you are looking primarily for sex and you do not want to spend your time and energy on helping us to get it up, that is totally fine! It simply means we are no match for we each other and we trust you will find somebody who can give you a good time at a finger’s snap. What is required from you in such a case is a clean way of communicating this to us, so that we don’t blame our cocks on a missed opportunity. How about telling us the truth with all the empathy your beautiful feminine radiance can convey? Something like: „It seems that we are no sexual match for each other and I think we need different partners at this stage. I don’t think you have an erection problem, you simply need a different woman, a woman that arouses you more than me, a woman that matches your sexual preferences more and that you connect better with“.
Being this open with us is better than leaving us with a vague idea only of why you did not want to meet up again.
If, however, you are our girlfriend or wife and our erections problems are recurring than we hope you are open for experimentation. We might come up with unconventional ideas so your openness to try them is appreciated; (Admit it, you have been fantasizing about dressing up as a bunny anyway, right?) And maybe we need to be encouraged to see a therapist who can help us to see our deeper blocks.
To sum it up: If you can learn to accept that we don’t always get it up then you won’t perceive it as a problem. This helps us in return to drop our worries and surrender to you sexually. If you manage to do that and if you express truthfully and empathically how you perceive the situation then you can be proud of yourself of having done what you could. Then we will feel safe to get naked and might thank you with the erection of your dreams. Either way you will have helped us to become better men.